We all have really warped views about what a relationship ought to look like. A lot of guys don’t talk about their feelings, but rest assured, everyone has things they want out of a relationship that they won’t tell you.
Nowadays, it’s hard enough making a relationship last, let alone finding out what your partner really wants. Don’t stress though, because no one is perfect and every day new things emerge; be it attitude, taste, or imposed interest.
In a chat with one of the beautiful ladies in Lunguda land, after being asked about that one thing she expects from her boyfriend or better put it as an emerging partner, she rushingly revealed that “Honesty” should be the first impression he should relay in other for her to open her world.
And now this got me to think, what do we really understand by the term “Honesty”, though oversold is the story of the girl left reeling over the person they really wanted to be with but who toyed with them and left them blindsided. All we’re really looking for at the end of the day is someone who genuinely cares.
The fact is, the language of honesty is a two-way thing and a high expectation from both parties.
In Adamawa today, most relationships are based on materialistic benefits, not much bothered how honest or genuine this affection could be. Though they wear the clothes of decency while having dirty inner wears. If you are not truthful to yourself how do you expect trust from someone else?
We don’t need you to consume our every moment. We’re not waiting for you to save us from our banal existence. We just want you to hop in for the ride.
What you should be expecting from a relationship ought to leave you feeling happy, frustrated, delighted, ecstatic, angry and just plain emotionally overwhelmed and that’s the beauty of it all as it comes out naturally.
Being in love is a wonderful, glorious, fantastic journey that brings together two like-minded people in a miraculous explosion of passion.
Sorry, I know that was really flowery, but stick with me, OK?
Don’t feel bad about starting a new journey after the past experience left you in a lovelorn atmosphere, crediting all, men to be the same only because the former trashed you for another lady.
But to embark on such journey, a lady ought to know the basic principles of life, accepting the imperfection of all human. Feel free to identify what you want to achieve and make it plain to the other party so that he in return would lure to your needs and to its satisfaction.
So then, what about Sex? I know some will grow shy because of this term, more especially our kind of environment where sex education is limited to only the subject “Biology” in secondary schools. Sex is just a matter of fact a “Sweet Experience” though for just a few minutes, but have been over exaggerated by so many.
Relationships nowadays hardly work with no sex involved, which brought about so many defense mechanisms to why it is necessary. Some said in their past relationship they met a sex monger that easily satisfy their urge in a matter of seconds, some minutes while others in hours. So, it is necessary for them to have a new partner that can do same if not, she might feel being kept captive in the relationship and can not feel the sweetness in it.
To other, making babies is a priority, and engaging in a relationship with someone who has infertility might be a doom. So it’s best to test and see (My people from the East, I dey hail woh!).
Guys want to be themselves around their girlfriends, and it sucks if they can’t because of what the girl thinks. Even if they won’t admit it, a guy will groom himself to impress his sweetheart. He will even change the things she doesn’t like about him. But he also wants to be seen for who he really is, and be loved for that. Not because his tongue is lubricated with sugar.
Ladies Please make decision that you wont regret later, settle for what you feel safe at not the ones vibing with stuff that can disappear in a short while.